Life in itself is a journey. Sometimes that journey is peaceful and easy while at other times chaotic and hard. The good comes with the bad and the bad along with the good, but many of us experience far more bad than we should. It's not that we are unlucky or that more bad things happen to us than the average person. No, it is more about our perceptions of things that magnifies the bad and minimizes the good. That's because past trauma both big and small continue to exist and have more power in our memories and continue to exert influence in our present lives than they should.
The beginning step to finding recovery from past trauma is simply to catalog our lives, examine each year from birth forward to simply at first to become aware of our trauma history. Even looking back to our pre-birth experience...what was happening when our mother was pregnant before our birthday. We can remember and be influenced by some of the feelings and events experienced by our mothers when they carried us in their womb.
The first step is one of simple event discovery...the interpretation and meanings will follow. But for now just go back in time, in your memory, in the memories of your parents, family members, and friends. Write down what was going on and the events, both good and bad in each year of your existence. If you don't remember then do some research. Ask others, refer to school yearbooks, old family photographs, newspapers. Discover first the simple events. If there is a particular period in your life that was traumatic it may take more time to peal back the layers and understand that period. Take your time and don't let the memories be too stressful and re-traumatize yourself in the process. If you find yourself becoming upset negatively and stressed then back off and take a rest from that period of time or event.
By simply remembering past trauma in a manner as emotionally "neutral" as possible, not allowing those painful events to frighten or continue to be painful through the simple memory of them, we can become "desensitized" somewhat to their traumatic effects. Granted some traumatic events will stir strong emotions, but you are in control of the process. If it becomes painful, then give it a brief rest. When you revisit that period or event again, some of that power to inflict pain will have been reduced and in time you can have complete control and more importantly more insight into that period or event and how it has "controlled" you ever since. You can take back the power that you have unwillingly given to past trauma to cause pain, unhappiness, fear and regret.
Make one of your New Year Resolutions to begin building your personal Life Timeline. Begin the process of freeing yourself from the power that past trauma has had over you for years.
I will add the link to the accompanying video: Starting the Journey on the Road to Recovery.
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